June 29, 2010

Day 365-A New Year

It's official. I am off the market for a year. Flipped the "switch" to the off position. This cab is not picking up passengers. For those of you still not understanding, this means no trying to find or getting into a relationship for the next 365 days.

Yes, you read correctly! 365 DAYS. If you know me, you’re probably asking WHY? since you know me as a serendipity-loving, white knight-wanting, hopeless romantic. And if you don’t know me, you’re probably asking WHY? because why would someone embark on what could become a suicide mission for future happiness? Because…

Yet again, I’ve found myself stuck on the other side of the pasture, thinking of how green the grass must be with a great guy by my side (or at the least, just a date for the Labor Day wedding I’m in). And in that picture of tranquility, the guy I see happens to be one I’ve already dated. AND been dumped by already. And CONTINUE to wonder about….

Now some of you may say it’s just the “what if’s” that accompany every failed attempt at love. I’ll have you know, I’m really good at relationships. Too good. As in (deep breath): get too excited, become too close too soon, proceed to lose perspective, promptly put too much pressure on both myself and the guy without trying type of good, and while freaking out myself (or more often than not, causing the poor guy to do so), I manage to miss the best part-truly enjoying another person in that moment.

Before I get too sappy (and yes, this blog will be honest and as a result, honestly sappy from time to time), the moral of this year-long mission is two-fold: 1-to break the detrimental relationship habit of trying too hard and subsequently losing myself, and 2-to take a step back so as to keep from looking back. Because when I started thinking about how much time I invest while dating someone, and then analyzing and re-analyzing (and re-analyzing) after the door to our future shuts, and THEN wondering when Cupid would look kindly on me again, I finally realized that I was missing my own moment. So here I am virtually shouting from the no-access rooftop of my walk-up building in the East Village (which is, of course, located next to a porn store): I am a 25-year-old single living in one of the greatest cities in the world!

It’s time to act like it.

I’m breaking free (cold turkey, I might add) from my relationship past and relationship future so I can find out how fabulous it is being single in the present. And yes, it's going to be hard and frankly, a little scary. Relationships are off-limits, but casual dating is allowed and encouraged (I’ve only been on ONE casual date in my life which hasn’t resulted in some sort of relationship-ONE!). But more importantly, the focus of the year is to get out of my head and away from my heart long enough to secure the foundation for that fun-loving, confident, doesn’t have a care in the world girl that I lose every time I get what I think I’m looking for.

I’m off the market & in the moment!


  1. This is great! Good luck Liza, can't wait to read all about it!

  2. Love it! Can't wait to read and you have inspired me to get my blog back up and running again! See you soon! xoxo

  3. Aww Liza! I can't wait to visit your blog daily and hear all your stories! LOVE YOU!!!

  4. Dear Single and Fabulous,
    You are a amazing! I am so excited for you and the year ahead! It's going to be so incredible to have an account of this year to always look back on :o)
    Love you to pieces!

  5. Ann-Stanton CannarellaJuly 1, 2010 at 9:21 PM

    Liza!!! I love it - I can't wait to read it every day. So proud of you!!

    Much Love!

  6. Liza Lou-

    I am so proud of you! I love it! :)Can't wait to read about your daily happenings/doings! This means MORE wine and Tout VA Bien dates in the city with me!

    love you to pieces!

    xo Miff

  7. i love that "anonymous" is signed "miff." haha. i just caught myself up on your wonderful blog! more power to ya sista :)

  8. Liza! I just found this too and am catching up. This is awesome and I can't wait to read this for a year... feel like I'm starting a new book or something!

    maybe you'll get a movie or book deal out of this. that would be AWESOME!

    good luck! xoxo, Taylor